Elderly woman hugging young boy.

Isolation is the most disabling experience

When I was in my early 20s, I broke my ankle which required surgery. For the next six weeks I was housebound because I was unable to drive. If it hadn’t been for family and friends who carted me around during this time, I would have experienced isolation from the world. From young to old, […]

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Tough love means you allow a person the dignity of choice.

Love is tough but you don’t have to tough love

You may have heard the term “tough love” when talking about how to leverage a person to enter recovery from an addiction. Oftentimes, this is used in conjunction with a decision that involves asking a person with an addiction to leave his or her family home. Loving a person who struggles with a chronic, relapsing […]

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This is a bowl of Chili Colorado, made with hot chili peppers.

Go slow with chili peppers and conflict

Professional and personal relationships can be challenging, especially if there’s a conflict. Somedays, they are like chili peppers. In looking at the pepper, you believe it won’t be that bad and you can handle it, but once you bite into it, you’re committed. Even if you spit out the bite as soon as you perceive […]

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Mediating the Amazon

High profile divorces can provide fodder for the gossip rags such as the National Enquirer for years. That’s if divorcing couples choose the traditional route of hiring attorneys to divvy up the assets a couple built together and it goes to trial instead of mediation. Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos might consider thinking outside of the […]

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Love is the answer and you know that for sure

This is my tribute to two war protesters who greatly influenced me: John Lennon and my father. I wrote this piece after an experience I had when I bought one of John Lennon’s pieces of artwork.  John Lennon (Oct. 9, 1940 – Dec. 8, 1980) Hollis Perry (March 27, 1932 – April 26, 1999) My […]

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Do you feel like you’re being tested?

Below is a piece I wrote a few years ago when I took a class through Mary Anne Em Radmacher. She is most famous for a quote that says: “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying I will try again tomorrow.” I took her on-line […]

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How to enjoy parenting challenges

Who can tell ahead of time what the experience of parenting will be like? Technology can let you know the gender of a baby, and sometimes it can diagnose a health issue in the womb. But technology can’t tell you this individual’s personality or forecast her or his future. So parents and children are then […]

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Have you forgiven or forgotten it?

You had a disagreement with another person and in your mind you forgave. You were able to forgive them because you ended your relationship with them. But did you really forgive them or did you just forget them? The answer to that question will be revealed next time you unexpectedly run into them in a […]

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New thoughts, right actions about marriage

This weekend marks my 21st wedding anniversary. Marriage has consumed my life for two decades. Everyone’s marriage is unique to them, so no one can tell you how to be married. It’s uncharted territory for the both of you. You can learn general guidelines from books, therapists, or church classes in how to: Fight fair […]

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